Step no.1: Imagining my Ideal Self


Well it’s all very well to say that I want to become rich and that I want my life to change. But in practical terms what does that mean?

I once went to a seminar where the subject was ‘Your Ideal Self’. At the seminar we were told to imagine what our Ideal self would be and to write it down. I remember what struck me was the lecturer’s words ‘when you think of your ideal self, don’t hold your creativity back. Don’t limit yourself only to what you think is achievable. If you could do anything or be anything and you had absolute freedom to do so, what would you be or do? Imagine that and then write it down.”

His words were a bit of an epiphany. Like a door had opened up that I hadn’t even realised was closed. I realised I had never pictured myself being or doing anything that I did not deem feasible and practical in terms of where I was currently at. Sure I’ve had my moments of practicing imaginary acceptance speeches for an Oscar in front of the mirror (I sometimes even bring tears to my own eyes with the heartfelt gusto with which I thank my parents), but I never really entertained the notion that I could ever actually one day win an Oscar (which is quite logical considering I can’t act, sing or do anything else of Oscar note-worthy importance).

It was now obvious to me that all these years the theatre of my mind had been run by a sardonic pessimistic director who took great pleasure in shutting down any unrealistic productions. Sure I have no outstanding talents, but blimey whose to say I couldn’t win an Oscar if I really wanted to?

So here I was at this seminar with a paper filled with questions on what my Ideal Self is like, and a sudden sense of daringness. I started answering the questions: What job does my ideal self do? what income does my ideal self earn? how does my ideal self spend her time? Where does my ideal self live?

It was exhilarating. All of a sudden I could see myself travelling the world, being a bestselling author, writing award winning screenplays, having a loving, healthy and beautiful family, living in a beautiful home, having lots and lots of money and being able to give and give freely, both time and money to my loved ones and to people in need. My ideal self was this healthy, happy, confident, fit, energetic, organised, capable, and fun person who enjoyed life to the fullest. Just imagining her made me feel all glowy inside and out.

The seminar ended, I went back to my normal not at all ideal life, and the image of my ideal self that I so fell in love with, quietly receded into the background of everyday angst.

But the time has finally come to drag her out of the musty corners of my mind, put her centre stage and take a good long hard look. Because it is only by imagining my Ideal self that I can pinpoint what it is I want to achieve, what I think will make me happy and what I ultimately want to turn into.

I asked myself once again, what is the job my ideal self has? How does my ideal self spend her time? What is her relationship with her husband like? Does she have kids? Where does she live? What are her friends like? What is her home like? Does she travel and where does she travel? What’s her body like? How does she dress? How much money does she make? What sort of person is she? What kind of life does she have?

With her image clear in my mind after answering all those questions, it was time to move on the next step. Setting my goals.